family matters.

How can i talk to my parents?

Our parents are always the first people we ran to for advice when we were younger. We told them pretty much everything from the bruised knee to the booboo on our fingers. And we all confided in them no matter what the response was. For some of us now that we are teeneagers or older, we may feel a certain type of way. some get along and others don't. But for most teenegers we feel as though parents just dont get us or they can't relate to us anymore. or sometimes you may not want to open to them. there is nothing wrong with keeping some thoughts to ourselves. "I have some stuff that i'd rather not tell anyone even my best friends so i totally understand".
   At the end of the day our parents are here for us. They  may be old schooled, or you lost their trust  or maybe they just don't want to hear it. it is your job to talk to them convince them to  what you want them to hear is important. Dont shut down and if you can't talk to your parents there are leaders at school, leaders at church, and your best friend.
These are obstacles we all have to cross as we get older. It's likegoing to the store and buying an outfit and it looks good but when you bring it home its not the same :( .... thats our parents they listen but when they have to listen and it doesnt make sense they're not buying it :(
so how do we talk to our parents? timing is key. know the right time to talk to them. The tone of your voice, your body language and the location and if nervouse bring a friend for suport.(don't let them speak for you). sometimes it helps if you take walks, go shopping or date nights those are the best times to talk to someone.
so the next time you feel you can't talk to your family try some of the tips above and practice comunication skills. theses are just a few i hope this helped and alsways stay fashionably dresses :)( it has nothing to do with it but it helps in making you feel good about yourself and always smile)


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Xx Patra

Why are we always arguing?

       
 Why are we always arguing is a question every teen asks. It doesn't matter what it is about, but it always leaves you feeling awful.Sometimes when I argue with my mother, I always bite my tongue but drowning in so much thoughts. I'd sit there and agree  with everything just to make everything go away. not to be religious on you guys or anything but the good book suggest we honor our parents. It also encourages us to think for ourselves as well. So maybe it is a great thing that I choose not to speak my mind and why is that "timing" is key.
           The question is how can you express yourself without turning a normal situation into World War III? it's very easy to say "well technically it's my parents problem and they are the ones on my case anyways." so how much control do you have over others and your parents included? so when you think about it the only person you can change is yourself. In order for the tension to be eased  you have to do your part then your parents are more likely to hear you out.
            So how can you do this? First of all is think before you respond. We always say what comes in mind without thinking. If you find yourself in this situation try to answer their questions with care. No sarcasm or other words speak respectfully. I noticed my mother gets mad at me mostly because I'm always sarcastic, on my phone, computer etc. When you parents are trying to get your attention try not to be distracted by any electronics, books or maybe anything that could tick them off. Another major one is speak quietly and slowly avoid rolling your eyes or giving other nonverbal indications of any annoyance. the last step is to listen. not only to yourself but your parents. this is the part you let your parents speak and give them your full attention. while they are speaking do not interrupt or try to justify your actions. when they are done whether right or wrong you can ask questions or express yourself. Sometimes it's better to leave things at a still point just because if you go further you might end up at the beginning.

These methods can be used at work with coworkers, school and any where helpful. Sometimes all we need to do is listen simple as that.

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ok lovies till next time....

Xx Patra